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Relationship Attachment Style Test

Attachment style describes what you do when a relationship feels uncertain — move closer, pull back, or both. This free 24-item test scores you across the four adult attachment patterns and gives you a full breakdown, not just a label.

The four attachment styles

  • Secure

    Comfortable with closeness and independence

  • Anxious (preoccupied)

    Craves closeness, fears being left

  • Avoidant (dismissing)

    Values self-reliance over dependence

  • Fearful-avoidant (disorganized)

    Wants closeness and fears it at once

Take the 24-item test

Rate each statement for how you behave in romantic relationships — past or present. Answers are scored locally in your browser and are never stored or sent anywhere.

  1. Question 1 of 24

    "I can tell a partner what I need without rehearsing it for hours first."

    Rating for item 1

  2. Question 2 of 24

    "After an argument, I trust that we will find our way back to each other."

    Rating for item 2

  3. Question 3 of 24

    "I'm comfortable depending on a partner and having them depend on me."

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  4. Question 4 of 24

    "Time apart doesn't make me doubt where the relationship stands."

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  5. Question 5 of 24

    "I can hear difficult feedback from a partner without feeling attacked."

    Rating for item 5

  6. Question 6 of 24

    "I assume my partner cares about me even when they're distracted or busy."

    Rating for item 6

  7. Question 7 of 24

    "A slow reply to my message makes me imagine something is wrong."

    Rating for item 7

  8. Question 8 of 24

    "I need more reassurance about the relationship than my partner offers."

    Rating for item 8

  9. Question 9 of 24

    "I replay conversations looking for signs my partner is pulling away."

    Rating for item 9

  10. Question 10 of 24

    "I worry that if someone really knew me, they would lose interest."

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  11. Question 11 of 24

    "When I feel distance, I push for contact until things feel resolved."

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  12. Question 12 of 24

    "My mood in a week tracks closely with how connected my partner seems."

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  13. Question 13 of 24

    "I'd rather solve a personal problem alone than talk it through."

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  14. Question 14 of 24

    "When a partner wants more closeness, I feel a pull to create space."

    Rating for item 14

  15. Question 15 of 24

    "I keep some parts of my inner life private even in a serious relationship."

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  16. Question 16 of 24

    "Emotional conversations drain me faster than they relieve me."

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  17. Question 17 of 24

    "I'm uneasy relying on anyone for practical or emotional support."

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  18. Question 18 of 24

    "I notice myself focusing on a partner's flaws when things get serious."

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  19. Question 19 of 24

    "I want deep closeness, and it frightens me at the same time."

    Rating for item 19

  20. Question 20 of 24

    "I sometimes pull away right after a moment of real intimacy."

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  21. Question 21 of 24

    "I expect people I love to eventually hurt or leave me."

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  22. Question 22 of 24

    "My reactions in relationships surprise me — hot one day, shut down the next."

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  23. Question 23 of 24

    "I find it hard to know whether a partner is safe to trust."

    Rating for item 23

  24. Question 24 of 24

    "Conflict can make me feel both desperate to fix it and desperate to escape."

    Rating for item 24

How to read your result

Most people score on more than one pattern. A high anxious score next to a high avoidant score usually points toward the fearful-avoidant picture: wanting closeness and bracing against it at once. A high secure score alongside a moderate anxious score simply means uncertainty gets loud under stress.

Attachment is a pattern between two people, not a diagnosis of one. The classic anxious–avoidant loop — one partner pursuing, the other withdrawing — is a dynamic each person can change by slowing the cycle down and naming it out loud.

Styles also move. Consistent, responsive relationships build what researchers call earned security; loss, betrayal, or a chaotic period can push someone in the other direction for a while.

Other models

Attachment explains how you handle closeness under threat. To see how you prefer to receive affection day to day, take the love language test. For core fears and motivations, the Enneagram test maps nine types.

For temperament itself — novelty, risk, and reward sensitivity — try the PersonAZ visual signature test or read how harm avoidance shapes the way people brace for rejection.

A note on attachment theory

Adult attachment research builds on the work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, later extended to romantic relationships by Hazan and Shaver and by Bartholomew and Horowitz's four-category model. This test is a self-reflection tool, not a clinical assessment. If relationship distress is affecting your daily life, speak with a qualified therapist.